New nap time routines

Now that David is in school all day, Mary Virginia and Thomas have no choice but to play together.

They play really well, but they also fight. A lot. I’ve never actually kept track, but I feel pretty safe saying that the time they spend fighting outweighs the time that they play by at least double.

It’s just normal sibling stuff, compounded by the fact that Mary Virginia is four and Thomas is two. Now that I’m spending a lot of time taking care of Anna, I find myself unfairly expecting them to just play. And when I tell them to just play they almost always respond by just screaming and hitting each other. Putting them in a room together is not unlike pouring a bunch of gasoline on a pile of sticks, striking a match and then acting confused when the whole thing goes up in flames. They’re four and two. That’s the definition of combustible.

As the year has gone on, though, they’re starting to figure things out. I find them together, immersed in pretend play. Usually it’s a game that Mary Virginia has started and she’s found a role for Thomas. I’ll find him pretending to be pregnant with a tiger or wearing a Cinderella dress-up skirt, dutifully calling Mary Virginia “Mommy.”

Or like this day, when it was nap time but I had to feed Anna, so Mary Virginia volunteered to read to Thomas.

Mary can’t read, but she was narrating stories, which is just as good for Thomas. That, and he gets the chance to sit by his big sister.

When you bring a new baby into the family, there’s a lot of uncertainty. While I’ve been figuring out new family routines, the kids have, too. The only difference is that they do it without the help of, oh, I don’t know, hindsight, foresight, a fully-developed cerebral cortex, a bachelor’s degree, and access to Google. When I have an issue with my toddler, I hit up Pinterest. Mary Virginia has to use HER IMAGINATION.

When I see them snuggled up on bed together, that’s when I know that we might just make it out of this year alive after all.



  1. Kristie | Girl Mom Chaos March 19, 2019

    The fighting…oh the fighting. I’m an only child so the sibling thing is something I have a hard time wrapping my head around. My girls can be playing so nicely together one minute + the next it’s like a WWF wrestling match in our living room — hair pulling, screaming, writhing around on the floor.

    My husband says it’s normal so I suppose we’ll make it through the year, too 🙂

  2. Meghan & Melissa March 19, 2019

    Nap time… it’s a beautiful thing when it actually happens and goes smoothly!! Thanks for sharing!

  3. Kayla March 19, 2019

    It is beautiful when the siblings come together, of course, there will be times that siblings have their fights. I’m currently pregnant and I grew up with several brothers while my husband was the only child. I’m curious to see how he will try to handle the situation when we have two babies and they decide they want to fight each other.

  4. Mary Rohrer March 20, 2019

    I love nap time but my kids are starting to out grow them:(

  5. I miss nap time so much! It’s so wonderful seeing the kids come together and get along so well. My heart melts when my boys hug it out.

  6. Ayesha March 20, 2019

    Nap time is the bomb dot com. lol I can’t wait for my daughter to have a sibling, but yeah, siblings fight. My sister and I fought like cats and dogs, but now we’re close.

  7. Trish ~ Habibi House March 21, 2019

    I loved reading this. I laughed out when I read your comments about the kids getting prepared for a baby. That was great!

  8. Caitlin March 21, 2019

    Sibling relationships are so fun to watch unfold. My two kids are three years apart, and it definitely goes back and forth from them being sweet and then driving each other up a wall. Haha.


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