![First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage](http://thekriegers.org/wp-content/uploads/about-e1356020702230-150x150.jpg)
Last weekend Tom and I embarked on what people fear even before they have babies. That this scares people before their lives implode into a newborn means it should be taken seriously. Before the baby is when people are sure they’ll be laid-back, unencumbered by baby gear and will stay out past their child’s dorkishly