Doing our part to perpetuate stereotypes

The other day we went to Target and left with ANOTHER new toy car for David, and ANOTHER doll for Mary Virginia. If you know anything about gender stereotyping and how toys perpetuate gender roles, then my shopping trip is grooming David to be an engineer at Ford Motor Company and Mary Virginia to flunk third grade math. If this isn’t the sort of thing that pops up on your NewsFeed, just Google “toys and gender roles.”

Some people take it really seriously, but I’ve never thought much about it because, well, I have a boy and a girl. My house is full to the brim of trucks and trains and dolls and My Little Pony, and David plays with ponies and Mary Virginia likes trains. And David LOVES dolls. Especially if there’s one on the floor and Mary Virginia picks it up. Suddenly he’s really, really, really interested in dolls. Or, that specific doll, the one that happens to be the only thing in the entire house that Mary Virginia wants. 

I don’t say anything when David wants to try on our neighbor’s dress-up plastic high heels. Actually, I can’t imagine trying to dissuade him from that sort of play because David doesn’t check with me about how or what he plays with ever. Are there kids in the world who you can tell, “Don’t play with that, that’s for girls.” And they just put it down because they value your opinion? I only give him direction when safety is an issue, and even then I sometimes just close my eyes and hope for the best.

After all, playing with dolls have its benefits. Kids engage can’t help but engage in getting creative and in imaginative role play with dolls. If a realistic baby doll helps in the growth of their social and communication skills, then I don’t see why we should stop them from playing, just because we thought it isn’t appropriate.


My kids got very gender-specific toys for Christmas — a doll crib for Mary Virginia, fire house Legos for David. Because I am a tyrannically-traditional mother. Also because it’s what they wanted; it’s what makes their eyes light up. 

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When David sat down to play with his Legos, his sister joined him. David drove trucks in and out of the fire house I built for him And his sister? She played with the little Dalmation and Lego men. She put the dog in a dump truck, the men on cars, and then placed another Lego on top and said, “Ni-night, dog-dog. Ni-night doll-doll.”

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That noise you heard? That was the sound of the feminist movement gasping at the horror.

But just look how happy she is.

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  1. Katherine A. January 15, 2015

    When Julia was 1 1/2 I bought her a very pink play kitchen b/c what little girl doesn’t want a kitchen and what little girl doesn’t want that kitchen to be pink?!?!

    The funny thing is, John plays with it the most these days and says things like, “I’m cooking dinner … just like daddy.”

    Doesn’t matter what color the kitchen is, what matters is who does the cooking and well, it’s pretty obvious who does it in this house …

    • amandakrieger January 16, 2015

      Bahahhahahahaahah! that’s awesome, katherine 🙂

  2. Rebecca January 16, 2015

    Kids play with the things they want to play with. I don’t think we have to worry too much about stereotypes unless we’re actively pushing them towards one or the other. I had a 3 year old boy tell my 2 year old daughter she couldn’t play with his cars because she’s a girl and I was shocked – because someone is telling him that! He doesn’t just think that all on his own. My daughter loves trains and cars and dolls and playing dress-up and I think it is all healthy.
    Stopping by from Casey’s blog!

  3. Tammie January 16, 2015

    I cam over from the Wiegands Blog and so glad I opened this up. I loved this post and believe that little girls and boys can play with either gender toys as you do. Thanks for letting me link up.

  4. Carie January 18, 2015

    At the end of the day happy is what matters most. Our girls play with their dolls and push them up and down the hall in their pram, they make messes in the play kitchen and as our Duplo collection includes both some Disney Princesses and the Fire Station, it’s Cinderella who sends the fire truck out while the chief fire fighter has to go to jail in her carriage! As you say, in what world do kids stop playing with toys because you mention gender stereotyping; I really hope not one that ever exists, they’ve got plenty of time to figure that out later!


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